For BETTER or worse.

So, it looks like it has been about two years since I've written a blog post. Whoa! A lot of things have changed since then (Hello, Texas and Avery!), but we can talk about that later. I just came here to get something off of my chest.

  I'm sure this won't be a popular opinion and as usual I don't really care (not that much has changed in two years). But, here it is, when I got married I remember vowing in sickness AND in health, for better AND for worse. No where did it say to ignore the person who's doing okay. Of course if we are ill or upset we are gonna need some extra attention. Of course if things are headed towards "worse" we should work diligently to change that. I get it, I don't disagree with it. All I'm saying is that when our marriage seems good and things are running pretty near to smooth we can't become complacent or they won't be that smooth for too long. And if your spouse seems to be doing okay it doesn't become acceptable to ignore them. You always hear people say "But you promised to be here in sickness and when times are hard" and it's true, that was promised. I will be here. But will you be there when I'm not crying, but I still want to hold your hand? Will you be completely present when I'm not hurting, but I still want a friend to talk to? Will you  walk with me through life when it's not chaotic and I don't need your help, but I just want your attention? Will you rub my back and tuck me in when I'm not shaking with fever, but I just want time with my lover? Will you keep your end of the deal and not just be my helpmate, but also my soulmate? I need you when things are scary or sad or hard, but sometimes I need you more when things are okay.